Mindfulness in Motherhood: Minding You and Your Child
Can mindfulness and parenting co-exists? Parenting is mind-blowing and heart-wrenching all at the same time. It touches the very part of you that longs to give and receive love. But it can also expose wounds left to be healed by time, only to learn that time does little to heal your type of wounds.
What does it mean to be a mindful parent? In this episode of the FilipinoMomCast episode, we chatted about how mindful parenting can look like for you, giving space for practical mindfulness in motherhood.
Take a listen below.
FilipinoMomCast episode 5: Click the image to listen
Some notes on the podcast episode:
- Slow Down and offer yourself space to make a mistake as a parent. This allows you to see your children’s mishaps as mistakes rather than as personal and intentional.
- State what you’re doing at a particular time. You can think many things at one time but can do (efficiently) one important task at a time. Research tells us that multi-tasking makes us less efficient.
- Our brain is allured by the word, YES, say this often to yourself and your children. Remember that NO means GO for the brain. If you tell your child, “ don’t touch the plant,” you guess it-expect him to touch that plant.
- Hang out with other moms who can share your pain but also positively impact your way to mindfulness in motherhood.
Mindfulness is presence. The moment a child is born, our biology is geared towards closeness and being seen and felt by our caregivers, usually the mother (and dads) in the first few months.
The benefits of being present cannot be underscored enough. In the study of attachment and the Adverse Childhood Experiences study, we know that mindless parenting, that is, parents who are unattuned with the child’s needs most of the time can put their child at risks for mental health difficulties and even heart conditions in the future.
There is no perfect parent, only a parent who tries perfectly hard to learn from his/her past histories.
You can learn this too.
We all can.
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Roanne has been a Psychotherapist for more than 15 years. She has frequented at least 500 Filipino homes and counting. She is the author of the Ebook: 5 Pinoy Love Languages and the creator of the presentation entitled: Filipino Core Values & Considerations in Culturally Responsive Care. To access self-paced courses and other resources, enter the Kalamansi Juice Academy.
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