Problem Is....You Put Yourself LAST.
Leaving you overwhelmed, stressed out, & resenting the very things & people you love the most.
You feel you need to be available to others leaving you unavailable to yourself. You don’t know how to balance both. You feel short-fused (highblood in Filipino talk) & overwhelmed.
No doubt that you love your Filipino family. But you feel misunderstood by them. You want to be heard rather than just play an obligatory role (anak, ate, tita, nanay). You feel dismissed & not good enough.
where being Filipino was the reason for attraction and is now the cause for tension. You don’t know how to explain to your partner how the family you are trying to set healthy boundaries with matters to you a lot. It feels like your values are misaligned. You’re crossing your fingers that things work out but afraid that they won’t. You feel sad & lost.
which frightens you because you are now one or expecting your first baby. You’re worried that you can’t provide the time and affection your child needs because you still yearn for the same thing from your mother. You’re hopeful that you can break unhealthy family patterns but not sure how.
I help Filipino Women who are-
Filipinos have a special talent, aside from hitting the I will always love you note on the karaoke; Filipinos in the motherland speak through their bodies.
In the West, kids are constantly reminded to use their words- a great skill to have. But, if you were raised to do both, say your needs or they won’t be met & sniff messages even when they’re not stated, or stated the opposite, you probably grew up multi-talented or confused.
The ability of the therapist to decipher words and sense non-verbal messages is crucial even if you were born in the diaspora. We call this Pakikiramdam (read this article I wrote about Pakikiramdam).
In therapy, you might be the only in one session, but the attuned Filipino therapist understands that you bring with you generational stories, both the ones that helped you, and the ones that keep you stuck.
A Filipino therapist who speak the cultural language not just the Filipino language or another dialect would have the ability to guide you through the complexities of who are and who you want be.
I’m Roanne. I'm so glad you stopped by!
Our work together will be an adventure of your lifetime. You will learn about yourself beyond the limiting beliefs you’ve unconsciously subscribed to without being in therapy forever.
We will tackle issues with depth & lightheartedness. I am playfully direct because who said the healing journey has to be sooooo serious. But you’re transformation will seriously change your life to the one you’ve only imagined. You will become the reality of your dreams.
I’m an eldest daughter, immigrant mom of 4 in an interracial relationship. I was born and raised in the Philippines but have lived in the U.S. for almost 25 years. I’ve navigated both cultures beautifully but have lived experience on the difficulty of bridging both.
Interested to see if we're a good fit? Schedule a 30 minute complimentary consult. If we're not a good fit, I'll do my best to link you to a resource that can be helpful to you.
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